Please note: “typically [used] when criticizing someone’s actions.”

In this era of quarantine, staying home, working from home, not going out, etc. we have so much time for memes, jokes, anecdotes and so on. I know you’ve seen the one joking:

After years of not cleaning my house or
finishing that project because I didn’t have time,
it turns out not having time wasn’t the problem.

Who here feels like they SHOULD be accomplishing so much during this time?

Who, then, feels guilty for not accomplishing ALL. THE. THINGS?

Who here feels like they SHOULD be handling quarantine fine?

Do you feel like you SHOULD just be grateful for your health, your privilege, your life, and walk through this major world trauma with an attitude of sunshine and roses?

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Yeah, you.

The answer to all of these questions is:


You are YOU.

You are important.

YOU are going to deal with every single bit of this in your own way.

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IF you worry about how others are living, where they are on their journey | Assuming they are doing better than you, putting yourself down | Then your much needed focus & energy is being wasted & this focus causes you to feel 😣👇 . 🎨@worry__lines 😊 ✒@anxiety_wellbeing 🌱 . 🔅Energy Your mind and body energy are your tools for change. Think about it, if your mind is full of thoughts focused on others most of the time, their opionion, what they are doing, their 1 moment pictures on social media, their seemingly having a better life than you, putting yourself down, worrying👇 . ❓Guess what There's no energy for you, no room for ideas, for seeing the opportunities. For thoughts that bring good feelings. Your focus is on something out of your control, & probubly causing you to continually worry and thoughts that bring sadness & anxiety. . ✋Notice if you are focused on others & if it's bringing you down? Then, stop take a breathe👇 . 🗣😊Speak to yourself. 'I'm focused on others, this gets me nowhere & not feeling nice, when I could be letting that go and making something for myself, my family, my connections. I am in control of my actions, that's how I'll make a change, in turn give me different thoughts to help change how I feel.👇 . 🌱Plus remember You cannot read minds You don't know how someone's life really is. They may just be putting all their energy in to them & not worrying about others you could do the same. The only way to get somewhere is to be learning what we don't already know. Get started! We are all just trying to grow, trying to get through past experiences, we all want to be loved, be accepted, be understood feel part of something. . 🌱👀If you focus on your growth, & action that, notice when you are being distracted. You will be moving forward & being a great influence for anyone needing to see how. . #anxiety #anxietycoach #copingskills #thrive #wellbeing #prevention #resilience #recovery #rejuvenate #wellness #selfhelp #selfhelper #cbt #support .

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I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way they handle these three things - Maya Angelou

Guys, the entire world is
one big f-ed up ball of
tangled Christmas lights.

I have muted or flat-out unfollowed several people during this global crisis.

NONE of those choice was because of what they were doing or how they were preparing/handling their things. I am all for and welcome those individuals who are trying to provide some sense of normalcy and/or distraction in these trying times.

The unfollowing was 100% due to their condescension and “how dare you” attitude in preaching to their followers.

Here’s an important fact right now:


YOU have the power over what you consume right now.

I’ve talked about this before, but it’s always a good thing to bring up.

There are two new sites, one local and one national, that I will not rely on unless I have a very reputable source backing them up.

I try not to consume those sources, in general, but especially now with sensationalization running rampant throughout the media. I am not saying this is not a serious situation, I am saying the media has done a terrible job handling it from the beginning.

In my social media, as I mentioned, I have unfollowed a few people whose accounts, before now, were harmless and fun with pretty pictures. Several others I have muted for the time being. With some, their whining was getting to be too much – they have a wide audience, they don’t need me; with others, it’s their “I know best, you must be doing things my way or you are horrible.” Most of the time I don’t even miss them and forget about them unless I actually see one of their posts in my feed (as opposed to them filling up my stories).

This is a very trying time in our world. Why not surround yourself with positivity?

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